Relationship Brain Chemistry - The Honeymoon Period and Gender Differences

p>Have you ever wondered why it seemed the loveShe may also feel more attracted to her new partner
you once had wore off? Love seems to fade as thewhile her oxytocin level is not low.
newness of the relationship fades. I will make it easyWhen The Honeymoon Is Over
to understand the brain chemistry and genderAs the newness of the relationship wears off, his
differences of the honeymoon period and how totestosterone level lowers. The allure of the chase is
restore it.gone. The stresses of his daily routine now lower the
I am going to explain the hormones involved in a newhormones. He detaches himself into what John Gray
found love relationship, and why those hormonesrefers to as the cave mode. As she feels the reality
change as time passes. Then I will go on to explainof her relationship and realizes he doesn't respond to
how to bring back that honeymoon feeling again.her every wish, want and desire, her oxytocin level
"When we are in love, we feel on top of the world.",reduces. She begins to feel unsure of her relationship,
says Dr. John Gray in one of his many best sellers,maybe even a bit of hopelessness and that spark
Why Mars and Venus Collide.from her indescribable optimism begins to fade.
Providing for his new love interest boosts a specificMaking Everyday A Honeymoon
hormone for a man. Being taken care of and cared forEven years after the honeymoon has long been over
provides a different hormone boost for a woman.there are ways to specifically raise those same
These hormones are usually more plentiful in thehormone levels. You can bring back those same
beginning of a relationship. When these hormones arefeelings of euphoria felt during that initial period of the
bountiful, the stresses in our lives generally may seemrelationship. For the man, he must be allowed a brief
less important. When the relationship enters theperiod when returning home to unwind from the stress
comfortable stage, the hormone levels go down.of his day. This will begin to raise his testosterone. He
Stress begins to rise and, the honeymoon is over.then will be able to be given specific tasks to
The Hormone Honeymoonaccomplish that will make his hormones rise even
His Testosterone: In the beginning, the man's hormonesmore as he knows she is pleased with his job well
are high with the thrill of the chase and the attempt todone.
win her over. This raises his testosterone level andFor the woman, she needs to feel heard. The more
makes him feel a sense of strength and confidence.she talks and discusses things and feels heard, her
He will be more energetic, and more affectionate orstress reduces and her oxytocin begins to rise. She
attentive. He may also feel more attracted to hermay want to enlist friends to help with this. Women
when his testosterone is not low.are better talkers and listeners because of the brains
Her Oxytocin: During the honeymoon the woman'sgender differences. As she talks and discusses her
hormones are high as she feels protected, providedstresses, her hormone level begins to rise and she
for and loved. This raises her oxytocin level andfeels more relaxed. His high testosterone and her high
makes her feel more affectionate. She may alsooxytocin should make for a great honeymoon all over
experience more energy, joy, and be more carefree.again.